How to Get Kids to Help With Chores (Age-by-Age List)

Chores build confidence and responsibility. Here's what children can do at each age, and how to get them on board.

Editorial TeamNovember 4, 20261 min read

Getting kids to help at home can feel like more work than doing it yourself. But chores teach responsibility, build confidence and help children feel part of the family team.

Age-appropriate chores

Age	Chore ideas
2–3	Put toys in a box, put clothes in the laundry basket, wipe up small spills
4–5	Set the table, feed pets with help, match socks, water plants
6–8	Make their bed, sort laundry, help pack lunch, tidy their room
9–11	Load the dishwasher, vacuum, take out the rubbish, help cook simple meals
12+	Do their own laundry, cook a meal, clean the bathroom, help with shopping

How to get them on board

Start young. Toddlers often love to "help" — use that enthusiasm.
Show, then do together, then let them try alone.
Keep tasks short and clear. "Put your shoes by the door" works better than "tidy up".
Use a simple chart so kids can see and tick off their jobs.
Praise effort, not perfection.

Try thisTurn chores into a game: set a timer and race to tidy before the music stops.

Should you pay for chores?

Families do this differently. Some keep daily chores as part of family life and offer pocket money for extra jobs. Others link a weekly allowance to a set of tasks. Choose what fits your values and stay consistent.

Be patient

Things won't be done perfectly at first. Resist redoing their work in front of them. Over time, skills and habits improve — and you'll have more help around the house.